Listening.

 Most of the time, we pay more attention to what we are going to say to someone instead of focusing on understanding what that person is telling us.

 Usually, in a conversation when a person starts telling us something, we automatically start thinking on how we are going to reply. However, we should take a moment to understand that the important thing in a conversation is not only our reply but our way of connecting with that someone.

 I heard that once and then, talking with a friend, I tried to stop my automatic thoughts on replies and just listen, understanding everything that my friend was telling me. By understanding I don´t only mean understanding the technical meaning of everything, but capturing the feelings that come within the words you listen.

 With the time, I understood that being a good listener is something beautiful. I started feeling so much more connected with my surroundings and my insides too.
 The better you listen, the more you´ll be listened.




 Here are some tips that I hope can help you to be a better listener:

 Next time you listen to someone, try to keep more eye-contact, that is surely something that will make the other person feel how much you care and how much you want to conect with them.




 Don´t be afraid of asking, asking is a good way of talking without taking the main topic away but highlight it. If you are listening to someone and you start asking yourself in your mind how that person might have felt in that moment or how exactly did the story happen, just ask.

 Remember you are listening. Try to not start assuming solutions or things that this person should or shouldn´t do. Try to really listen. At the end, you will feel the whole connection you have done with this person and feel as if the story/problem/situation that this person just told you is your situation, and this will help you to understand him/her in a better way, making your reply from your heart and true.




 If you just try to listen, the conversation will eventually feel more connected and true, it will be better not only for the other person who is being listened but you. Because of course if you listen, you will eventually be listened as well.

 Building a real good talk does not only depends on how good the dialogue might be. Listening is one of the most important things and most of us don´t usually do it. I´m trying to become a better listener and I often think about these things, so I really hope this can help you as it´s helping me!

Much love,
Mili :)