Opened Eyes, Opened Mind

 Finding beauty in small daily events can be a simple change in life that can, however, change the way you look at everything that surround you.

 ¨When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.¨

 It might seem silly for some of us to think of stopping on our way home a second to look at an old tree and appreciate it. Maybe you don´t have to be that extreme to see the beauty on simple things, but it could be a good start.

 One day I started scrolling over pictures of parks all over the world on Tumblr and I really felt such a desire of being there in that moment. Later that day, I went to a park that was near my house and I was like: ¨Um, this park is not as pretty as the ones I just saw  on the Internet.¨ but anyways I started to explore it with my eyes, as I just determinied myself to explore it, I started noticing so many small things in it that I didn´t notice before. I felt happiness and excitemnt for exploring more and more places! So, I have never stopped doing it.

 Since that day, wherever I go I can definetely enjoy it in a full way. I don´t care about the bad sides of it or the negativity of its surroundings but its beauty. Every single thing in life has its beauty, when you understand and try to change the way you look at those things, things will trurn upside down!
 Maybe sometimes it can seem pretty hard, then, close your eyes, breathe and open them up again and open your mind. If you just try it, something will change.

 We can´t control the things that happen to us or where we are sometimes, but what we definetely can do is control our insides over those things or places. It might seem hard at first but once you learn and constantly try it, it will naturally become easier and easier!

 Go out of your comfort zone, explore. Go to new places, try out new things and look different at things that are usual in your life as well. Your mind has lots of unknown colours that are waiting to come out and colour your world in a different way. Just let it all go and be free.

Much love,
Mili :)

Listening.

 Most of the time, we pay more attention to what we are going to say to someone instead of focusing on understanding what that person is telling us.

 Usually, in a conversation when a person starts telling us something, we automatically start thinking on how we are going to reply. However, we should take a moment to understand that the important thing in a conversation is not only our reply but our way of connecting with that someone.

 I heard that once and then, talking with a friend, I tried to stop my automatic thoughts on replies and just listen, understanding everything that my friend was telling me. By understanding I don´t only mean understanding the technical meaning of everything, but capturing the feelings that come within the words you listen.

 With the time, I understood that being a good listener is something beautiful. I started feeling so much more connected with my surroundings and my insides too.
 The better you listen, the more you´ll be listened.




 Here are some tips that I hope can help you to be a better listener:

 Next time you listen to someone, try to keep more eye-contact, that is surely something that will make the other person feel how much you care and how much you want to conect with them.




 Don´t be afraid of asking, asking is a good way of talking without taking the main topic away but highlight it. If you are listening to someone and you start asking yourself in your mind how that person might have felt in that moment or how exactly did the story happen, just ask.

 Remember you are listening. Try to not start assuming solutions or things that this person should or shouldn´t do. Try to really listen. At the end, you will feel the whole connection you have done with this person and feel as if the story/problem/situation that this person just told you is your situation, and this will help you to understand him/her in a better way, making your reply from your heart and true.




 If you just try to listen, the conversation will eventually feel more connected and true, it will be better not only for the other person who is being listened but you. Because of course if you listen, you will eventually be listened as well.

 Building a real good talk does not only depends on how good the dialogue might be. Listening is one of the most important things and most of us don´t usually do it. I´m trying to become a better listener and I often think about these things, so I really hope this can help you as it´s helping me!

Much love,
Mili :)

Why am I even crying?

 We try to do everything perfectly fine. Getting good grades, making mom and dad happy, being the good main character of a good movie when, at the end, everything turns out just like it should.

 But life is a roller coaster and we can feel as if we can´t even be the main characters of a good movie.

 Like in days like these.

 I open my eyes in the morning and I know what I have to do. I have to be nice, I have to do my chores, be productive and positive, I have to think that everything will turn out just like it should.

 But sometimes, eventhough I know exactly what to do and how to do it.

 I´m lost.
 I lost my balance and now I don´t even understand what´s wrong.

 I feel as if every tiny little thing is a problem that strongly crashes agains my chest. When I try to pull those problems out with others, I feel like I´m just annoying them and pooping on my own movie, so I should just smile and pretend everything´s fine.
 As the day goes by, a sadness haze fulls me inside, more and more. At night I finally lay down on bed and all these overwhelming feelings just fall over my body as my slumber. And this is the moment, yes, this is that moment, when I will probably scream on my pillow or just cry over it.

 But then, when my tears fade away. I just look at the roof and I ask myself:

¨Why am I even crying?¨

 In that moment I realise that I know this moment, I know what is happening here and I know how to control it. I know that I am a good person, not perfect or sinless, but who tries to make actions based on good intentions.

 Why  am I feeling this way if I know there´s nothing bad with just being human?

 Now, I try to think about the good sides of my person and my life, or just life in general. I usually take a piece of paper, and I write down my pros, which are not to show off to the world but for me to know how much I can do to do good and feel good as well. Of course I have flaws, and tons of them, but I´m human and I was not born to be some kind of perfect robot.

 There are really bad days when I feel as if I am useless and stupid, as I can´t put my life together and I feel my existance even disturbs my own dog.

 But, there are also really really good days when I feel as if I am an awesome person ready to help and make my dreams come true in this world.





The important here is that, at the end of the day, you realise that you are free to control your own desitions. If you take them with good vibes and intentions, you´ll get that back. No matter how your mood can be, the desitions that you take over time are the real things that define what kind of person you are.
 Make sure you know that every new day is a fresh new start to make some healthy new choices that will, through the years, define that person you want to be. Eventually, you will become what you choose to be, and if you choose to be and do good, sooner or later you will realise that and understand how much you are worth it, no matter how rough a simple day can be, that can´t change your real intentions in this world.

 So, take this moment, right now. This moment is yours. It´s your body, your life, your eyes that opened this morning.

 What now?

 Now, think about all the good that is inside of you. Think about all this good intentions you might have and do not waste them. Your choices are what make you you. Remember that you do not have to try hard to be something you are not, and that you are perfect, just the way you are, with all your flaws, you still perfect.

 Take a moment just to think about what makes you happy; riding a bike, watching old movies, making a new playlist of your favourite kind of music, being nice with unknown people, playing an instrument, writing, reading, making a dessert for your friend, redecorate your bedroom, go give flowers to strangers down the street, whatever! Even just smiling counts!

Think about every new breath you take as a new beginning. Don´t think too much, just do what makes you happy!

 Lots of love, always.

 Mili. :)

How I started to play the piano (Just a small story).

I was twelve years old and my family and I were about to go to a childen orquestra concert. At that time, my sister used to play the violin so I was a bit obeyed to go. I did without any comment. When the concert started I felt as if something inside of me had changed. I know it sounds childish, but I started to look at the whole world in a different way. Things weren´t the same anymore. I already thought music is wonderful. But everything colapsed when the piano solo came. A teenage boy pianist started to play a Yann Tiersen song and I didn´t know who I felt anymore. I started to feel nervous and excited like never before. My heart started to race so quick like when you fall in love with someone. But in this case, it wasn´t someone, it was something. I smiled and I thought: ¨I want to make someone feel the same thing I am feeling right now¨. The something I was waiting for. It was a missing piece of my heart that I didn´t even know I had lost. Now, I can´t remember my life before music. That night, I told my dad I wanted to play the piano. A year later, on Christmas, I recieved a keyboard and I swear I was the happiest person in the world. I knew it was the begginig of a new me. At least, a new world for me.

 This small stories. The ways we took up our instrument. May look insignificant at the moment but in the future you can look back at them and remember that proudly. 

Keep on keeping on. And remember you always can start with an instrument or any new pasion! It´s not about age or money, It´s about what you want to do. At the end, the only thing that matters is to be happy. So, do what makes you happy. 

Remember start a new day with a smile, just because you can.

Until the next post!

Mili